About a month ago, SRH and I passed our 12th wedding anniversary. To honor the day, SRH did a “12 things” about our marriage post. He then went on to say how hard this post was for him to write. Being the hyper-competitive person I am - which is to say I’m not at all competitive, but it seems to fit here - I immediately said I’d also write a 12 things post. And mine would be better.
So here goes.
12 Things About Our Marriage
Thing 1
We travel well together. No pit stops on a road trip. (Because any decent person would have peed before we left.) No annoying pre-planning what we’re going to do and see. We decide when we get there, and we don’t have any regrets.
Of course this perfect perspective on traveling was all mucked up when little people entered the picture...
Thing 2
Opposites attract: He’s tall. I’m short. He has adequate depth perception. I 've hit the garage with the car more times than I can count. He’s laid back. I’m...not. He is enamored of the taste/effect of Mt. Dew. Caffeine makes me sick. He regularly loses things. I have a uterus.
What a wacky pair.
Thing 3
We are eerily similar: We are mountains/hiking people vs. beaches/sunbathing people. We’re both homebodies. We both hate peppers and strawberry ice cream. We both think I’m right most of the time (right?), and we both know that we’ve bitten off more than we can chew with this second kid of ours.
Thing 4
Wherever he grows, I’m growing, too. And vice versa. Good to be on this journey together, then.
Thing 5
We read out loud to each other. People think this is weird. I don’t get that. We’re going on year 4 of rocking a baby to sleep, we gotta have something to do.
Thing 6
In 12 years of marriage, we have never lived further than 3 blocks from a Dairy Queen. I appreciate a partner that respects my priorities.
Thing 7
We’re cat people. Of course we don’t have any cats because Zane is deathly allergic, but cat people are cat people whether there are cats around or not.
We’re cat people.
Thing 8
We recently went to Zane’s Open House at school without him. Zane was feeling a bit poorly, but we didn’t want to miss the opportunity to see what’s happening in his classroom. I will admit it became a bit awkward when we had to start grabbing other kids to explain some of the stuff in the room, but it all worked out.
Thing 9
We will go on wild goose chases together.
The day I wanted 10 boxes of lime green dye? He went with me to 4 Jo-Ann Fabrics and 2 Michael’s craft stores.
Need Tomy trains for a four year old? You better believe we went to every train store in the city before buying them online from a Japanese company. (holy shipping and handling charges)
He went with me to the other school. The lottery school. The school Zane didn’t get into even though it’s only 3 blocks away from our house. And brand new. And goes all the way to 8th grade. Even though we both knew the visit was pointless. He still went with me and advocated for a spot for our child. And not because he wanted to. Because I needed to.
Thing 10
He keeps up better with my friends than I do. He facebooks. He occasionally emails my friends. He answers our phone and actually chats.
If not for him, I might be friendless and woefully unhip to the whole social media phenomenon.
Thing 11
We have been together for 14 of the 17 years of our adult life. Most of my dearest friends never even knew me without him.
Crazy, that.
Thing 12
Of course. The babies. The amazing, wonderful, awe-inspiring children that make us better people.
Happy Anniversary, love. Can’t wait to see what’s next!
